They say time heals all wounds, but that’s not accurate.
The truth is, time can be your worst enemy if you’re suppressing past traumas. Mental and emotional wounds that get left open only tend to get worse. They can develop into mental illnesses, PTSD, and even physical ailments.
On top of that, you could be putting yourself in danger of getting re-traumatized. Ignoring or pacifying a psychopath is not an effective way to deal with bullies. Instead, you need to take specific steps to heal.
Read on to learn three effective tips to solve your bully problem now and forever.
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Empower Yourself With Knowledge
If you’re dealing with bullies, then it’s natural to question yourself. You may wonder — is it me? Or, is it them? This doubt and confusion can only make your situation worse.
That’s why your first step needs to involve some serious research! First, you need to get informed about the most common types of personality disorders. Investigate disorders like:
- Borderline
- Antisocial
- Narcissistic
- Paranoid
- Schizoid
Learn how to spot a disordered individual. That way, you’ll know if you’re dealing with a bully or just someone who had a bad day. Use your knowledge to strengthen your discernment.
Don’t end your research studying up on others, though. Be sure to find out more about trauma. Take the time to investigate whether you need some inner healing.
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Go No Contact
Have you determined that you’re dealing with a disordered individual? If so, then going no contact is your best option. No contact means exactly what it sounds like. It means not having any type of communication or relationship with your bully.
It may be painful to get started on no contact. It might be an uphill road if your bully is a family member or co-worker. Despite that, it’s the only way to break the cycle of abuse forever.
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Use the Gray Rock Method
Statistics show that one in five business leaders have psychopathic tendencies. With that in mind, you’re likely going to have to deal with bullies if you hope to have a good career. When you can’t go no contact with your bully, then what can you do?
The next best thing is implementing the gray rock method.
To execute this strategy, you want to become a gray rock. That means you’ll want to make yourself boring and unemotional around your abuser. This tactic works because your abuser will get bored and move on to someone they can get a rise out of.
How to Deal With Bullies and Heal in 2021
As humans, we don’t deal with bullies well. We tend to adopt poor coping mechanisms like ignoring the problem or doing what the bully wants. This has pushed the most disordered individuals into the biggest positions of power.
To solve the societal problem, we need to take things one person at a time. Do your part by getting informed. Then, deal with your personal bullies by going no contact or initiating the gray rock method.
As we head into 2021, there’s no more room for bullies to be in control. Take a step forward and get empowered by following the tips in this article. Browse through more of our articles to find even more helpful information.
