Delegating this role is a task that requires a lot of thought. You need to choose someone whom you know very well. The last thing you want is to be blindsided by characteristics and attitudes you didn’t know were lurking. And if you pick wrong, it would be very awkward to un-select that person as maid of honor. Shoot for the first choice being the right one by considering these points.
Can That Person Think Outside Of The Box?
When it comes to coordinating activities like the bachelorette party, you want someone in charge who will not be intimidated to explore all options. Yes, there are a number of usual selections for the hen party like a slumber party, and karaoke but wouldn’t it be so much more exciting to try something you never have before? Your MOH selection should be someone bold who will say yes to some of the quirky outings detailed on Modern MOH like glamping, or even pole dancing classes. If this is something they haven’t done either, perfect! This way you guys will build memories together.
Select Someone With A Good Sense Of Fashion
Your maid of honor will be leading your troop of bridesmaids. You most likely will call upon them to give their opinion on or suggestions for bridesmaids’ dresses. You want to be confident in their ability to color coordinate, style complete outfits from headpieces down to shoes. What a relief it would be to leave such matters in their hands. Should this not be the case, and you realize you’ve chosen someone who is fashionably challenged, you will need to dispense some quick guidance and hope for the best. Learning these skills from scratch can be daunting, but as long as your MOH is on board, you’re in business.
Consider Their Financial Situation
You know the expectations you have of the holder of this position. It could span anywhere from paying for their dress, buying their airline ticket if the wedding will take place overseas, and pitching in here and there to help with organizing different events. Do not delegate this position to someone who is struggling financially. You risk putting you both in a difficult and awkward situation.
Are They A Natural Leader?
If your best friend and first pick for MOH is painfully shy, you may need to reconsider. This position is for someone who is a natural leader, assertive, convincing, and bold. Making a sentimental public toast, planning a hen party, leading a group of multiple women is not for the weak and unsure. Opt for someone you know who can handle the pressure of your bridezilla moments and remain unphased. A leader will be able to rally the troops. Having all the women on the same page and falling perfectly into line will be a blessing throughout the process and especially so on the big day.
Take some time. Make a list if you have to. Outline the pros and cons of all your potential selections. When you settle on one, you’ll be sure you’ve made the right decision.
