Maintaining a healthy sex life isn’t always possible, especially when life starts to get in the way. You may find that you and your partner are just too tired after your day to even think about getting down to it. On the other hand, you might find that the spark you had has dimmed a little, and your sex life feels a bit stale. However, you don’t have to let it die away completely! There are ways you can reignite your passion and begin to enjoy each other’s bodies once again. So, keep reading and discover 4 top tips that will enhance your sex life!
- Try Something Completely Different
As with anything, if your sex life becomes repetitive and monotonous, you can easily fall into a slump and feel bored. But you can break out of it, and one of the easiest ways to do so is through trying something completely different. You could get your hands on a sex whip if you’re feeling brave or if you’re not feeling 100% confident, you could try something as simple as a blindfold. You don’t need to be the kinkiest couple in bed to enjoy using toys either. Spend some time together either in a store or looking online at all the new jazzy sorts of toys on the market. You can then talk about what you’d each like to try and start to make plans to use them. The excitement of trying something new can be enough to bring the spark back, even if you don’t end up loving whatever it is you’ve tried. Having a new experience together can actually bring you closer to each other and strengthen your intimacy.
- Don’t Focus Purely On Climaxing
When you have sex with your partner, are you both solely focused on making each other or yourself climax? If so, then you need to take that away as the only reason to have sex. Although climaxing during your time together is great, it shouldn’t always be your end goal. Sex is a lot more than that, and you’ll find that you feel even closer if you just focus on each other’s bodies and what feels good for you, rather than putting pressure on yourself to reach a final destination. Try not to let climaxing be the point of your sex life. Instead, really clear your mind and enjoy the moment. You’ll find that you probably climax a lot easier too when you don’t put pressure on yourself to do so!
- Communicate Openly
Even if you’ve been with your partner for ten years, you probably haven’t spoken about everything, and your sex life is no different. Some people don’t like to talk about it but speaking openly about sex with your partner will really enhance your time together. If you know what you like or you have certain fantasies, make sure you let your partner know about them, and then ask them what theirs are too. You should also make sure to communicate during the act itself, as you want your partner to know what they’re doing is good or if they need to do something slightly different. It’s always good to let your partner know if something isn’t working or if you feel like your sex life has dwindled. Chances are, they probably feel the same and once you’re both on the same page, you can work together to get it back.
- Schedule In Time For Bedroom Activities
You might have read in magazines that spontaneous sex is the best kind, which is partly true. But sometimes, knowing when and where it’s going to happen really helps build up the anticipation for it. If you both find that neither of you have any time, set one time a week where you only spend time together and focus on each other’s bodies. Knowing that there’s that certain time set aside for sex can really build up the excitement and make you anticipate sex with each other once again. It’s also a good idea to ban yourselves from touching each other sexually before this allotted time too. For instance, if things start to feel a bit hot and heavy one evening, try your best to stop yourselves from going any further and waiting until your agreed time and date. Restricting yourselves from each other will only make you want it more, and when you do finally come together, you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other!
Having a better sex life doesn’t mean you need to have more of it or try all sorts of weird and wonderful positions. It’s actually quite easy to enhance it and it doesn’t really take a lot of effort. Sex with your partner shouldn’t be full of pressure to perform or climax, and instead it should be focused on exploring your bodies and enjoying lots of different sensations. Before you know it, you’ll be out of your sex drought and be back once more at having a fulfilling, intimate sex life with your partner. So, be sure to try out these 4 tips if you feel like your fire has gone out and you’ll soon need a whole fire brigade to come and put it out!